I’m going to be perfectly honest with you, there are times throughout my life that I think to myself “Does all of this really matter? Does anybody else need to take the measures I take to life with integrity and are people looking at me like I’m crazy?” It’s so easy to look over our shoulders when we’re doing something different than the crowd and wonder if it’s normal.
Recently, I was in deep thought about the choices I’ve made in my life and I began to evaluate the boundaries I’ve put in place for myself. As the doubts began to rise up once again, a very simple thought entered my mind . . . I’m better. I don’t say that in a prideful way at all, but I say it in a way that acknowledges that I’m better than I used to be. I’m better than what the world expects me to be. I’m better.
As this thought flooded my mind I was struck with the realization that I may not be doing what other people are doing and they may even think I’m crazy, but every measure I put in place makes me better than I would be without it. Guarding my eyes protects my heart and mind from impure thoughts. Monitoring what I watch on TV protects my purity and integrity. Reading my Bible daily equips me with the knowledge, wisdom and love I need to lead myself and my family. If these measures aren’t in place, I’m setting myself up for failure.
What prevents us from being better? What is the natural enemy of improvement in our lives? The answer is easy. That’s right, the answer is “easy”. All of the things that stunt our growth as men of God come easy to us. It’s easy to sleep an extra hour in the morning before work and not get up to read your Bible. It’s easy to watch the baseball game instead of spending quality time with our wife and kids. It’s easy to check out the pretty woman who crosses your path. You know what’s not easy? Getting up at 5am to make sure you’ve read your Bible before the day starts or skipping the big game so you can play board games with your family. It’s not easy to bounce your eyes when that pretty woman comes into view, but all of those things make you a better you.
“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.“
-Romans 12:2 (NIV)
God wants us to clear our minds of what the world deems normal and acceptable and focus on what His will is for us. Society’s norms have absolutely no relevance over the calling that God has on your life so I encourage you to take a look at your life and ask yourself this question . . . “Are the things I’m doing right now, making me better?”
If the answer to that question, is no, you’re most likely doing things the easy way. If you want to make a real difference in your life and push yourself to see all that God has for you, then it’s time to start doing some things differently. The decisions we make now have a lasting impact on not only us, but our wives, our children, our friends, coworkers, and more. The attributes of a Godly man can spread like wildfire throughout the people we have influence over. So you may think it’s a simple act, but the impact goes so much deeper than we can even imagine.
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